It’s just as important to plan a beautiful marriage as it is to plan a beautiful wedding. Prayer is the primary way to do that!
When we got engaged, friends encouraged to choose a prayer that we would say during our engagement to help us prepare for becoming one in marriage. One friend suggested choosing the litany of trust, several prayed a daily rosary for their future spouse, and others simply asking for a specific saint’s intercession.
In our search we stumbled upon a general audience that Pope Francis gave addressed specifically for engaged couples. Three things in particular stood out to us from Pope Francis’ address either based on their intrinsic humor related to marriage or because it resonated with us in its deep spiritual implications. Pope Francis said to engaged couples preparing for marriage:
We took these pieces of advice to heart from Pope Francis – especially the third point to pray for our daily love.
Every time we sat down for a meal together during our engagement we would say grace and then added an Our Father prayer with the words switched to be “give us this day our daily love” instead of “our daily bread.” It was small, simple, but deeply profound for us in our preparation.
The greatest gift it offered was opening our hearts to trusting God even more and allowing Him to truly be the center of our relationship. We recognized how easy it is for us to make mistakes or be impatient when what we really want is to love the other with a pure heart. This helped us remember that God will sustain us and give us the graces we need to live out the vocation He has called us to.
If you haven’t chosen a prayer for engagement yet, this is a great time to start! We pray that God gives you the daily love you need to live out your vocation too.